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I am in court on Monday, after blowing 72, I know I'm going to get a ban of around 18 months, but will take the DD course to get that reduced. My anxiety is off the charts, I'm not sleeping and I'm terrified that I will appear in the local paper, as I havent told anyone what has happened. I made a stupid, monumental mistake and am struggling to deal with the shame and guilt, as a DD conviction carries such a stigma.
I stupidly went with one of those specialist solicitors, as they told me what I wanted to hear and at the time I wasnt thinking straight, and now its too late to cancel them and get a refund. I have read many posts on here and just wish I had found it sooner.
The rational part of my brain tells me I will get through this, and will adapt to not driving over time, although it will be difficult. If I can get my ban reduced to around 13.5 months, I'm telling myself that it will pass quickly.
I am currently unemployed as I got made redundant last year, so I am now thinking that I will never get another job with a criminal conviction. I feel like my world has imploded and its all my own stupid fault.
I live on my own so dont feel like I have any support at the moment, although I am planning on telling some close friends. I just dont know how I am going to cope, or how I can get through 13 months of not driving and trying to keep that from people who know I drive, as well as trying to secure employment. I've then got the added pressure of what to do with my car, as I will need to find someone to transfer it to so I can get it insured in their name.
The long term effect of this is killing me at the moment.
Does anyone have any advice about getting employment, of has anyone got any experience of getting named in the local press? I have an abusive ex who doesnt know where I live, so if they name and shame me that info will be out there for everyone to see. I was thinking of asking my solicitor to speak to the press, if they are present, to explain my circumstances, but I am scared that will just peak their interest.
Also, as I havent told anyone, I dont have any character references, will this cause an issue? I will be writing a heartfelt apology, as I am truly remorseful and deeply ashamed. Its my first ever encounter with the police, and the DD incident didnt involve any accidents or 3rd parties.
As I'm currently unemployed, will the court want to know how much savings I have, so they can calculate the fine?
Any help, advise or wisdom would be very much appreciated
I stupidly went with one of those specialist solicitors, as they told me what I wanted to hear and at the time I wasnt thinking straight, and now its too late to cancel them and get a refund. I have read many posts on here and just wish I had found it sooner.
The rational part of my brain tells me I will get through this, and will adapt to not driving over time, although it will be difficult. If I can get my ban reduced to around 13.5 months, I'm telling myself that it will pass quickly.
I am currently unemployed as I got made redundant last year, so I am now thinking that I will never get another job with a criminal conviction. I feel like my world has imploded and its all my own stupid fault.
I live on my own so dont feel like I have any support at the moment, although I am planning on telling some close friends. I just dont know how I am going to cope, or how I can get through 13 months of not driving and trying to keep that from people who know I drive, as well as trying to secure employment. I've then got the added pressure of what to do with my car, as I will need to find someone to transfer it to so I can get it insured in their name.
The long term effect of this is killing me at the moment.
Does anyone have any advice about getting employment, of has anyone got any experience of getting named in the local press? I have an abusive ex who doesnt know where I live, so if they name and shame me that info will be out there for everyone to see. I was thinking of asking my solicitor to speak to the press, if they are present, to explain my circumstances, but I am scared that will just peak their interest.
Also, as I havent told anyone, I dont have any character references, will this cause an issue? I will be writing a heartfelt apology, as I am truly remorseful and deeply ashamed. Its my first ever encounter with the police, and the DD incident didnt involve any accidents or 3rd parties.
As I'm currently unemployed, will the court want to know how much savings I have, so they can calculate the fine?
Any help, advise or wisdom would be very much appreciated