sushisam22
New Member
It is going to get better.
Disclaimer: This is not an encouragement to DISTANCE yourself from the crime. It is about moving forward, not thinking back.
It takes genuine remorse, reflection and ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance is hard. Your personal identity is not tied to you being a 'convict'. It takes time for your brain to assign this new value to you, and for you to be okay with it.
But is important to consider your identity is many different things - this isn't and will never be the DEFINING factor. You made a mistake, you faced the consequences. You received the appropriate punishment. Don't punish yourself MORE by constantly doubting yourself or how your life will go.
Trying to run away from this is the usual initial reaction. You'll inevitably realise this causes more pain than progress. Face this head and see it as a learning lesson.
It's quite simple - you have two options now:
-> Fall into a deep, extended depression and let this affect your life more than it already has
-> Accept and move on. Seize every chance you can. Life your life essentially as you would have without this. Why would you voluntarily let this stop you from living your life? Yes things like securing your EXACT desired job may be affected. But does this mean you won't apply out of that fear? NO.
It is a criminal offence - for good reason. It impairs your ability to handle a vehicle and poses a significant threat to everyone else on the road, not to mention yourself. The point is you have faced the appropriate sentence and any further mental punishment is unnecessary. Genuine reflection and remorse is NOT the same as living in a depressed state of mind, feeling helpless. Learn to differentiate the two.
But it will get better.
It is not the end, I promise.
Disclaimer: This is not an encouragement to DISTANCE yourself from the crime. It is about moving forward, not thinking back.
It takes genuine remorse, reflection and ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance is hard. Your personal identity is not tied to you being a 'convict'. It takes time for your brain to assign this new value to you, and for you to be okay with it.
But is important to consider your identity is many different things - this isn't and will never be the DEFINING factor. You made a mistake, you faced the consequences. You received the appropriate punishment. Don't punish yourself MORE by constantly doubting yourself or how your life will go.
Trying to run away from this is the usual initial reaction. You'll inevitably realise this causes more pain than progress. Face this head and see it as a learning lesson.
It's quite simple - you have two options now:
-> Fall into a deep, extended depression and let this affect your life more than it already has
-> Accept and move on. Seize every chance you can. Life your life essentially as you would have without this. Why would you voluntarily let this stop you from living your life? Yes things like securing your EXACT desired job may be affected. But does this mean you won't apply out of that fear? NO.
It is a criminal offence - for good reason. It impairs your ability to handle a vehicle and poses a significant threat to everyone else on the road, not to mention yourself. The point is you have faced the appropriate sentence and any further mental punishment is unnecessary. Genuine reflection and remorse is NOT the same as living in a depressed state of mind, feeling helpless. Learn to differentiate the two.
But it will get better.
It is not the end, I promise.
